A Christian mandate: Raising Good Kids
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 ESV
Ever notice that this proverb does not say, “train a child in the way of God and he will not depart from it”? Whether we choose to train a child or not, we are training our children. In other words, the proverb is teaching us that we are getting the exact results our actions intended to give us. The morality plaguing generations today are the result of how our parents trained us during childhood and adolescence years ago. Now many of us a putting our own twist on something already twisted and the result are the issues today’s children are faced which includes human trafficking, LGBT agenda, immigration issues, school shootings, financial deficit in most governments and much, much more.
Too often we are afraid to get back to the basics – not back to tradition – but the basics. In many churches today, families are not learning the Word from the pulpit and therefore the Word is not being convicted to be heard in the home. Since the Word is not in the home, the Word is not being forced to be heard in the pulpit. We have dropped the ball in seeking God and His Word and therefore most Christians do not know the genuine heart of God and purposes of His gospel through Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.
It becomes very difficult to train a child in the way of God, that he will not depart from God later in life, if Christian parents do not understand and model out the gospel in their own lives. A child will do what he is trained or allowed to do, which becomes a default training into moral depravity, and too often there is no training, which is the same as allowing the child to train themselves! There is a significant difference in telling your child about Jesus and training your child in the ways of Jesus. You can tell a child about Jesus in a minute or less. It takes a lifetime of devotion and love to truly “train a child” in the ways of our Lord.
“I didn’t know” has become an acceptable response to all questions in an age which severely lacks accountability. God showed us His love and showed us a better way to live so that we could raise good kids in the Lord. However, we have absolutely failed to teach them diligently to our children. We do not talk of them when we sit in our homes, or when we walk by the way, or when we lie down, or when we rise. We do not bind them as a sign on your hand, and they have not become frontlets between your eyes. And certainly, most of us have not written them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. (Our failures taken from Deuteronomy 6:6-9 ESV)
We cannot argue with the proverb. God’s Word is true. We have trained our children and they have not departed from the moral depravity we have taught them. We have showed them to call evil good and good evil. However, its not too late. We can turn the ship around but it will take patience, resolve and courage all acting in the love of Christ. Big ships take a long time to turn but they do turn, even from a small rudder. Take heart, seek the Lord and live the gospel out for your kids, but most of all, with your kids.